Total Page : 240
Publisher : Ballantine Books
Publication Date : 2010 02 05
>> Being straightforward
Jenny Sanford s biggest mistake was not listening to what her husband had to say early on in their relationship He is a very self centered man and really gave her many clues as to what really made him tick I m sorry their marriage didn t work out mostly for the 4 boys but she was smart in walking when she did He doesn t deserve his family
>> Disappointed
I was excited about reading this book Initially my heart went out to Jenny Sanford but the more I got into the book I realized Jenny brought on a lot of her problems herself She knew early in the marriage and even before the marraige he was extremely selfish and self centered I did have sympathy for her during a few times in her relationship with him but there comes a point when you just have to leave Jenny stuck around far too long but for reasons I m sure she feels were justified However I can only imagine the emotional turmoil and confusion she was going through This is certainly not a situation I would ever want to be in but I just don t see what Jenny Sanford s purpose was for this book Perhaps she should have kept it as a personal journal and shared it with her children later on I really wasn t very impressed at all by the writing style and I was appalled by all the things she put with with her husband It was obviously a one sided marraige and I just can t condone anyone staying with someone for that long knowing he was heading down the self serving road he was on
>> Feeling her pain
I had to read this book because I too had a husband who had a long term affair that ended our nearly 36 year marriage The grief from such an event is nearly overwhelming but I was also willing like Jenny to forgive my husband of this extreme infidelity if he would end it permanently Jenny continually offered her husband what I call space and grace over the lifetime of their marriage until the last when he wouldn t give up his mistress and kept lying about it When my husband moved out for the second time to be with his lover that s when I got the attorney and started divorce proceedings A marriage is so sacred in the eyes of God and thus should be to us as well that one doesn t leave it because one is frustrated with the selfish egocentric behaviors of one s spouse or because they do stupid things in general because as a wise man once said It s the sand in the oyster that makes the pearl In other words struggles will be there irritations beyond numbering will be there but if both parties continually try to be humble and helpful and earnestly seek the good of the other spouse the marriage will be blessed
Adultery can be forgiven too and the marriage salvaged when there is true remorse true repentance in the heart of the adulterer This clearly wasn t there in Gov Sanford s case and Jenny took the action required by the situation
When I was going through some counseling to deal with my husband s departure the most important thing I heard from her was that my husband s adultery was NOT my fault To Jenny Elizabeth E and now Sandra B Ladies it s NOT your fault either
